christopher vasey naturopathe


The Spiritual Homogeneity of Parents and Children

Which soul enters which family as a “permanent guest”?
Is there an inheritance of spiritual qualities?
Where does the so-called “black sheep” come from?
What influence do the parents have on the incarnation?

The journey of the human spirit

The story of each human being begins in the spiritual plane, which forms the highest part of Creation. In the beginning, our human abilities are not developed as yet, they are only in an embryonic stage and have to come to full blossom.

Just as a wheat grain cannot unfold in mid-air, but has to be planted in the earth, so also the human spirit-germ has to leave the spiritual planes and enter the denser regions of Creation, in order to be able to develop therein. The earthly world stimulates the spirit to unfold the abilities resting within it. The friction with the density surrounding it strengthens the will, promotes endurance, vigilance and every other spiritual quality. The process is similar to the one an athlete undergoes during training, whose muscles are strengthened by subjecting them to an increased workload. The resistance, which they have to overcome, enables them to grow.

Thus the human spirit-germ leaves the plane of its origin at the beginning of its journey of development, in order to immerse in the dense layer lying below. In order to remain there and not perchance be immediately ejected upwards again by the Law of Gravity, the spirit is encased by a covering, which holds it on this heavier plane. It works like a diving suit, enabling the diver to penetrate the depths of the sea. Yet this covering serves the spirit not simply as ballast, but also as a tool to perceive its environment and act in it. It is therefore more than simply a cloak - it is a real body with organs and limbs.

Just like the diving suit, which is adapted to the diver’s body and therefore conforms to it, the covering of the spirit also has a human form. It must be emphasized here that the spirit itself should not be thought of as something nebulous, shadowy or indistinct as is sometimes assumed, but it also takes on the human form so familiar to us; head, body and limbs.

This process of immersion into a deeper or lower lying level of Creation occurs several times and the human spirit thereby always dons a new covering, which fits snugly over the previous one, similar to the well known Russian dolls which are nested inside one another. The outermost and densest covering of the spirit is the earthly body, whose initial development takes place in the womb of the prospective mother. In such bodies, souls incarnate which have already gathered sufficient experiences and thereby gained enough strength to prevail in the gravity and density of the earthly world and to continue their development. (What is meant by “soul” is the spirit with its finer cloaks, but still without the gross-material or physical body).

The anchoring of the soul in the physical “cloak”

When a chance to incarnate presents itself, this can be perceived from the beyond, from the ethereal spheres of finer matter, because the fertilisation of an egg by a sperm and the process of development resulting from this emits a very specific radiation which penetrates to these regions. This has the consequence that souls who are ready for an incarnation approach the little body. After a selection process, the suitable soul anchors itself in the vicinity of the developing body, to help forge the ties between the body and the soul. This connection later leads to the incarnation.

In this context, the term “anchoring” has been used quite intentionally, because just as a ship anchors itself on the seabed so as to avoid breaking adrift, the soul also has to be anchored in order to be able to remain near the developing body.

The anchorage is offered primarily by the soul of the mother and to a lesser degree also by that of the father. They attract the soul of the child-to -be and offer it the opportunity to remain in the vicinity of the tiny maturing body, until the connection is so firmly established that an incarnation can then take place. There are many souls waiting for an opportunity to incarnate. Who is to be chosen for a particular incarnation?

The choice takes place in quite a natural manner within the framework of the Law of the Attraction of Homogeneous Species; (the Law of Reciprocal Action likewise plays a role, as will be discussed later). The radiations of both parents work in a very personal attracting manner. According to their qualities and characteristics, their nature and character, but also to their weaknesses and shortcomings, the radiations they emit will have a definite “hue”. This provides for a selection from among the souls ready for an incarnation and draws that soul which shows the most similar colouring, whose characteristics must therefore also correspond most closely to those of the parents.

“Like father, like son!”

This is the reason why many children have so many similar characteristics with their parents. There is no heredity on the spiritual level, only the attraction of homogeneous species, which can nevertheless mould entire generations. The members of a family therefore often clearly demonstrate common character traits, such as generosity, selflessness or certain talents, but also greed, egotism, violent behaviour or megalomania. Various sayings testify to this fact: “like father, like son”, “you can know the tree by its fruit” or “the apple does not fall far from the tree”. If it happens that sons follow the same profession as their father, it is not necessarily always because they were pressured into doing so. It can also simply be because the son bears the same gift within himself. A famous example is the family of the composer Johann Sebastian Bach (1685-1750). From the 16th century until the middle of the 19th century, which corresponds to twelve generations, each one lasting 30 years, there were 75 people in the Bach family who – at least in part – made their living from music.

Likewise the faults or weaknesses of character sometimes also reveal themselves across the generations, because the attraction of homogeneous species brings like-minded people together, regardless of whether the affinity is based on good or bad character traits.

The connection with the body

When an opportunity for incarnation is offered through procreation, a soul matching the parents anchors itself, as we have seen, in their close vicinity. This anchoring consists of two components: on the one hand a bridge of radiations which works in a similar fashion to a magnet, while the second component consists of threads, which, not unlike the so-called threads of fate, work in a connecting way between the souls. But this process merely links the prospective parents to the human spirit waiting in the beyond, which seeks to join the family as a new guest. But since the soul intends to incarnate into, (and thus take possession of), the growing foetus, a special connecting link to the new physical body has to be forged as well. For this purpose too, special threads develop, which, although invisible to our gross-material eyes, are not only essential for the incarnation itself, but they also play an important role during the whole sojourn on earth. Only at the end of life do these threads, which have bound the spirit firmly to its earthly tool of physical body, fall away and dissolve again.

Belonging to these threads is the “silver cord” which can be seen by many clairvoyants. This description pertains to threads of a silvery hue, which connect the physical body to the so-called astral body, thus to a finer “cloak” of the spirit. The Bible too, speaks of this important “silver cord”, (Ecclesiastes 12, 6), the dissolution of which brings about the final release of the soul from the body; thus the process we call death.

Why are there “black sheep“?

The Law of Attraction of Homogeneous Species ensures that human spirits with similar characteristics find themselves together in one family. Yet how do things stand with the so-called black sheep? How is it that one can sometimes observe children who are totally different from the other members of the family and who, unlike their parents and siblings, demonstrate particularly problematic traits of character? Such children often drive their parents to despair and can be the source of innumerable problems and worries. In other cases, it is simply their striking difference from the rest of the family which makes them stand out, such as their aptitude for a “hands on” occupation in the midst of a family of academics, for instance.

Has the Law of Attraction of Homogeneous Species failed in its task in the case of the “black sheep”?
No, it only appears to be so.

Earlier on, it was expressed that a person is required in the vicinity of the embryo to provide an anchor point for the soul that wants to incarnate. This anchorage is usually the parents, but not always. It can also involve someone who spends a lot of time in the vicinity of the mother-to-be, such as a relative, for example, or also a home help or even someone who regularly frequents the residence of the mother for some reason or other.

Nonetheless, the mere presence of such a person is not sufficient on its own to form an anchorage for a soul striving for incarnation. This is demonstrated by the fact that typical black sheep are not very numerous. The key is the inner attitude of the mother. If she has neither high ideals, nor a longing for the noble and beautiful, if she is not spiritually alert and has a tendency towards superficiality, then, as a consequence of these traits, the radiations emanating from her are weak. This weakness only permits a loose connection to the soul which she attracts. This soul can therefore be pushed aside by a different soul, which likewise wants to incarnate. But this can also only happen when a third person in the vicinity of the mother provides a strong anchorage point for the usurper, thus a prevalent character trait or a marked fault.

In normal circumstances the expectant mother is well protected by the vigilance of her spirit against such an aberration. The joy or anxiety felt during a pregnancy stimulate the inner life and should actually eliminate any superficiality or tepidity. In spite of this, is advisable that a pregnant woman be very discerning about the persons she chooses to have around her, especially at the beginning of the pregnancy, at the very time the choice of the soul takes place.

This was well-known in former times. In ancient Greece for example, pregnant women withdrew from social life. In African tribes it is also known that expectant mothers retire to huts, which stand isolated outside the village. Even today, many women still change their habits as soon as they know they are expecting a child. They tend to go out less, for instance, and may feel the need to lead a quieter life, although they are usually unaware of the actual reasons for this.

The influence of the father on the newborn

The process of attraction of the soul awaiting incarnation will usually depend on the presence of both parents. What happens then if the father is hardly at home, or totally absent during the pregnancy, because, for instance, his job involves a lot of travel or he has been stationed far away? What if he had since died through illness or due to an accident? Would the child then have no similarity to him, not even resemble him?

Naturally there will be physical similarities, since these are inherited through the genes. But also a spiritual resemblance cannot be ruled out. The attraction of the soul seeking incarnation already begins immediately after the procreation or conception, at a time therefore when the father is present and thus forms a powerful centre of attraction for the anchorage of the soul. The first threads woven thereby can continue to develop even if the father is absent afterwards. The child can thus have a spiritual similarity to him, by all means.

Another decisive factor is not necessarily the physical presence but the inner connection between father and mother is of paramount importance in this respect. When true love connects two people, they yearn to be together and the one thinks about the other, so that this inner closeness has a much stronger effect than the physical separation.

If on the other hand, the two cherish no deep feelings for each other and have decided to separate, for example, because they see no future in their relationship, then the influence of the father will only be weakly present, whilst the mother constitutes the spiritual anchorage practically on her own. In such cases the child will bear a spiritual resemblance primarily to its mother and may only bear a physical resemblance to its father.

Christopher Vasey

Article based on the knowledge of the Grail Message